So Why am I Single in St. Louis?

I've been asked this question countless of times and every time I never give the full answer... Hell I find a way to give a polite and politically correct answer, but you know what? I don't feel like sugarcoating it anymore....

I'm single because I'm not APPRECIATED... especially the way I FEEL I should be.... I know it sounds a little "whoa is me" and bandwagon-ish but I can only speak my truth....Just like men do things to show their love females do the same thing. I'm a realist and I understand how a man's mind works... A man needs to be that provider, protector, AND PURSUER!!!! If he's not all 3 then he's not taking you seriously... I stand on that belief hands down... If you don't call me on a regular basis to see how I'm doing... curious as to what's going on in my world your not interested and your number gets deleted out of my phone. I have no time to waste on a person who doesn't deserve my time....

I've had TOO MANY conversations with GOOD women that just get so frustrated with the men in their life b/c ratchets come a dime a dozen.... I've personally never had a man cheat on me but I understand my girls' situations... I know everyone's not perfect but men hold to much power in most instances.... I don't let it get that far to where a man could do in that that bad..I understand how a man's mind work... I will give only so much rope to hang yourself and then your number is deleted... I know my worth... If you don't show me you know it too then you're dismissed... Flat out... There are PLENTY OF OTHER FISH IN THE SEA that are patiently waiting... No bragging at all... Again I say "I SPEAK MY OWN TRUTH" ..I often use some of my girl's situations and my past ones to make myself stronger in my stance on why I'm single... AND will proudly profess it............... I currently date..... yes.... BUT FOR THE BENEFIT OF ME... no one else....

When I want to be bothered... that's just it... I'm bothered.... I don't feel the need to have to answer to any man about what I do, where I go... or who I hang with.... I come and go as I please and my life has been so much simpler and easier now that I have a different mindset....

I'm not looking for anything serious for the simple fact that men in 2009 exercise their right to date excessively... Why can't I.... In almost all aspects of my life I'm a human sponge... I soak up information that is valuable for me and my assent to greatness... why ignore this area... it makes no sense to me when some women ignore the benefits of being single just b/c they want some constant penis w/o being labeled a hoe.... I've heard so many women say shit like this it makes me sick... I'm not saying sex every man in the club but to get in a situation just b/c u want sex is ridiculous and I've known females like that... to need a man constantly and it really don't matter who he is characterwise is disgusting and embarrassing to me... If you're not sexing every man you hang with why not date a few ... Fuck that stereotype shit... I'm over it and I'm tired of having to worry about what other's think... You don't pay shit or take the classes or seek the major at Saint Louis University SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO..... you have no say on my character or shit I do... flat out....

But back to the main topic....

I'm single b/c I've learned the art that men have passed along to their sons and grandsons.... The true singleness mindest is a mothaf*&^^ to have.... And it's's so empowering and intoxicating all at the same time.... To be able to answer whomever whenever you feel like it and having no remorse on sending someone straight to voicemail is too invigorating. I see why men do it... Now I know some may read this and think that "Oh my gosh.... she is missing out on so much"... but guess what babes... I did the relationship thing... for 3 years... it was both wonderful and horrible... I know what it's like.... I prefer this path at this point in life ... No I'm not bitter... I love a support relationships... But in my own situation I am very content and happy in this state... it allows me to concentrate in on me and mine....

Now the people I tagged are just people I feel would appreciate this... Nothing more or less... I tagged no one that this note is personally directed towards.... just some thoughts...

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B Free Apparel AKA "B. Wear", is St. Louis really ready!!

Prototype # 1

Not really sure i'm gonna put the website on the butt, I'm thinking of just putting, "Life's Short, B. Free" or maybe "Paparazzi" or "I heart B. Free". I'm in the research phase so its all wide open!

COMMENT BELOW AND LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK!

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http://www.bfreepaparazzi.com/ presents the LME's Summer Reign Ozark Weekend Event Gallery! LME thanks you all for the love and support of the Summer Reign Event Series! Click here to see pictures from Summer Reign 2009 Special thanks to B Free Paparazzi's very on Nick Powell and special guest Paparazzi's Theon Richards & Chaddwick Dennis for assisting in capturing this mind blowing event!! Stay tuned for more http://www.bfreepaparazzi.com/ photography powered events and be sure to check out http://www.lme-stl.com/ for the latest from LME

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The City Forum & BFreePaparazzi.com Present…
THE RULES of THE GAME 2
"Grown Folks' Business"

A 90-min Town Hall Forum to DECIDE the Rules of DATING & RELATIONSHIP
Scenarios in St. Louis followed by…
A GAME NIGHT
featuring your favorite party, board, & video games, (please bring a game to share),
& a 90’s R&B/Urban Music Listening Party.

Hosted by: The Hon. Masherrl Conyer and Barry C. Neal
http://thecityforum.blogspot.com/
Saturday, Aug. 8, 7:30pm
Legacy Books and Café - 5249 Delmar, St. Louis, MO
(please help by patronizing Legacy to thank it for supporting TCiF)
Admit: $5 ($7 after 9pm), 21+ only

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NEW STL NIGHTCLUB - GRAND OPENING DELAYS

Original article courtesy of DeLux Magazine - http://www.delux-mag.com/2009/08/31/1194/#comment-104

There was a delay with the Grand Opening of STL's newest club, "Karma". According to industry insiders, "No one worry, my man SLIM has it under control"

You know how it can be dealing with the red tape. But hold tight. Save that money you were gonna spend that night, put another check or 2 with it and when them doors open you’ll be ready to drop some BIG TYMER change!!!

read the full story at http://www.delux-mag.com/

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B Free's Free B's

Hello good people, since we all seem to be pinching our peso's these days i've decided to post this blog in hopes of taking a lil strain off ya pocket books & wallets. Please comment and contribute addtional locations as you see fit.


Houlihan’s Restaurant
1085 N Mason Rd, Creve Coeur - 314.469.1167

In addition to offering $6 appetizers from mon-fri 4:30-close & all day Saturday & Sunday, Houlihan’s Creve Coeur also offer $1 mini burgers each and every Monday (at the bar during happy hour) as well as1/2 off house cocktails and draft beer & Half price bottles of wine (tues all day). The Free B’s don’t stop there, if you sign up for there mailing list you also receive a coupon for a free appetizer & a free entrée on your birthday. Though these are listed at the Creve Coeur location they may be valid at other locations so be sure to ask if you happen to be at a Houlihan’s.

Yemanja Brasil Restaurant

2900 Missouri Ave., St. Louis, 314.771.7457

Yemanja’s Brasil Restaurant, another Benton Park jewel, has a wonderful Friday night happy hour (5p.m to 7p.m) During happy hour, Yemanja offers a buffet-style sampling of their appetizer menu. If you’re looking for some great tasting food with an international flair that not too far from the familiar, this is the spot for you. P.S. keep and eye open for the chicken wings, they are truly out of this world.

Drunken Fish Restaurant

1 Maryland Plaza Dr St. Louis, 314.367.4222

The Drunken Fish in the Central West End offer a ridiculous happy hour on Monday - Friday from 5 - 7 pm. They have 1/2 price martinis, 1/2 price exotic drinks, $2 bottled beer, $1 infused sake shots and They also have 1/2 price makimono rolls $1 sushi pieces and $1 off appetizers. Though this is a great happy hour as is, on Wednesdays they’ve decided to sweeten the deal, with the purchase of any of the previously mentioned drink specials you will receive a ticket which you can redeem for free appetizers at there happy hour buffet.

Frazer’s Restaurant & Lounge

1811 Pestalozzi St., St. Louis, 314.773.8646

Frazer’s restaurant & lounge is located southwest of Soulard, in South City’s Benton Park area. Every Tuesday Frazer’s offers a .complimentary appetizer buffet during their happy hour (from 5 to 7 p.m.), typically the buffet offers anything from hot wings, to chips and dip, and sometimes they may surprise you with there delicious variety of kabobs.

Scape Restaurant & Lounge

48 Maryland Plaza, St. Louis, 314.361.7227

Though some may consider Scape a bit on the pricey side it is a little known fact that Scape offers a variety of mid week specials. On Tuesdays, Wednesdays, & Thursdays from 5 to 7 p.m., diners are treated to a free appetizer bar. Along with a variety of hor’dourves Scape also boast happy hour specials such as $2 domestic drafts, $3 imports, and $4 mixed drinks.

These selections are only the tip of the iceberg. We here at http://www.bfreepaparazzi.blogspot.com/ encourage you to add and/or expand on any locations we may have missed. As a matter of fact the saucemagazine.com is running an article which list some of these same restaurant and there is a section where they point out happy hours w/ specials less than $5... check them out at http://www.saucemagazine.com/

LEAVE YA COMMENTS, ADD YA SUGGESTIONS, AND LETS CONTINUE TO SHARE THE HOOK UPS!!! (Don't spell check me!!!! i don't care, lol)

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Rules Of The Game

"Dating, Relationships, Marriages, hell even being single can be hard work. When issues come up in the dating Game (and yes it can be a game) a lot of time we don't know what to do. Tell us What would you do in these 'Rules Of The Game' Scenario's?

RULES SCENARIO #1: When should a woman begin contributing financially to romantic dates?
A) Only if she invites the other person out.
B) Anytime.
C) By the 3rd Date.
D) Never.

RULES SCENARIO #2: Your spouse/fiancee now hates clubbing, dancing, and random socializing in STL. The prefer to be a homebody, but you still love it! Do you:
A) Continue clubbing without them. This is who you are.
B) Endlessly coax them into coming out with you by bartering favors.
C) Hang it up. Stay home forever.

'RULES' SCENARIO #3: Ladies, you are ready to become intimate for the 1st time with your new beau. Do you:
A) Put it down on him, WWE-style: no holds barred! I got dat 'good-good'!
B) Hold back a little bit on the freakiness. Save some for later.
C) He ain't gettin' any til marriage. If he liked it he shoulda put a ring on it...

'RULES' SCENARIO #4: A random cutie contacts you on Facebook/Twitter and starts trying to HOLLA. You are intrigued. Do you:
A. Ignore the flirtations. You don't know them from a can o' paint!
B. Engage in a prolonged cyber-message courtship, possibly ending in meeting at some party.
C. get it cracking after a few messages. Set up a dinner-date and see what happens."

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